Regardless of how we were raised, with religion or not, most of us were taught to forgive those who treated us badly. It is,by far, one of the most difficult tasks we try to understand. Ooooo, how good it felt to wish my offender to suffer a horrible case of pus-filled sores and complete baldness (yeah, I guess I've had my moments). Then, when I entered my 30's, I began to understand that my nasty "goochers" (curses) were unnecessary-- Karma would take care of my heartbreaking slights. And Karma is a bitch .But that didn't work, either .I just didn't get the concept of forgiveness.
This morning, one of my best friends, Dan Gibbs, posted a blog named "The Art Of Forgiveness". Its an incredibly insightful blog and I suggest all of you to read it (The Date Manifesto on blogspot). One of his quotes finally made forgiveness easier for all of us to understand:
" I read somewhere that by letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for kindness, compassion and peace. Its not even necessary for the other person to ask for forgiveness, but its important for me to grant it. That is when my healing begins."
We read self help books searching for ways to forgive. We seek the opinion of others to help us understand how to overcome this disabling hurdle. Dan seemed to have summed it up in a no-nonsense paragraph.
What a wise man. It is a shame that there are women out there who didn't appreciate the person he is. But that's none of my business. He's forgiven them. And so should I.
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